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Father Michael Schmitz: How do I get better at being generous

I find myself being less-than-generous quite often. I want to have a better attitude, but people keep wanting things from me: they want my time, my help, and my financial support. How do I get better at being generous?

Father Mike Schmitz
Father Michael Schmitz
Ask Father Mike

This is a fantastic question. Many people want to be wise in their lives, but it is something special when a person is asking for a way to become even more than simply wise, they want to become good. Even more, in your question, I hear you asking how you can become more like Christ.

This is the best possible question because it is the entire point of being a Christian: becoming like Christ in all things. So, when it comes to “his stuff,” how did Jesus view his life? While Jesus is the Lord of all and is fully divine and equal to the Father, in his humanity he was absolutely insistent on affirming that he lived to do the Father’s will. How did he see “his life/stuff/mission”? It might be boiled down to the statement, “All things have been handed to me by my Father.” How did Jesus live generosity? It began with his fundamental attitude towards life.

Let me say it this way, if we want to become more generous, it doesn’t begin with action, it begins with vision. It has less to do with how we live in the world and more with how we look at the world. A person can behave generously (and that would be very good), but behavior has to have a deeper root, and this deeper root is one’s worldview.

There are essentially two ways of looking at one’s life: as an owner or as a steward. I can see all of my stuff, my time, my talents, and my everything as “mine,” or I can see all of those things as what has been “entrusted” to me. They are either my possessions or they are someone else’s possessions that are merely on loan to me. The difference between these two worldviews cannot be underestimated.

If I look at my life as my life, there are two natural tendencies that I will likely embrace. First, I will quickly become insensitive and indifferent to all of the good in my life. After all, if all of this is “mine,” then I will rapidly take it all for granted. It is no longer a gift, it is what I am “owed.” Of course I have this body: it’s mine. Of course I have these gifts; they’re mine. Of course I have these accomplishments; they’re mine.

If that is how I see them, then I might be generous with them, but each time, I am generous with “my” stuff. I may give you some of “my” time, but that continually costs me something. There is a limit to generosity like this, and there is a limit to gratitude if my attitude is like this.

In addition, if my perspective is that my gifts, things, and time are my own possessions, then what is my perspective when they are taken away? Every gift we have will be taken from us. Every bit of time will be taken from us ultimately. At some point, each one of us will get sick, suffer loss, run out of time, and die. If I believe that I am the rightful owner of my life, then I will likely view that loss with resentment. I could potentially become overwhelmingly bitter at the prospect of losing all of my things.

These are two of the consequences of seeing oneself as the owner: ingratitude in the face of giftedness and resentment over those gifts being taken away.

But that is not the only option. And it is not the perspective of Jesus. We can acknowledge the deeper truth that we are not owners but stewards. We do not have possessions, we have been entrusted with gifts by the Father. They are his.

Remember the parable of the talents? Or the parable of the gold coins? After the master distributes the talents or coins to the servants, he leaves with the hope that the servants will do something with his gifts. In fact, when he returns, he asks, “What did you do with my money?” It is his money. They are his gifts. Every moment, every heartbeat, is his. Every breath and every talent you or I have belongs to him. We have been entrusted with his gifts so that we can do what he wants with those gifts.

This should lead us to incredible gratitude and generosity. At every moment, we could give thanks over every little thing that we know does not belong to us, but that he continues to entrust to us. Imagine waking up and giving God thanks for the gift of sight. Imagine not complaining about being sick, but being able to breathe and saying, “God, thank you so much that I am not sniffling today!” Rather than resenting the gift that has been taken away, imagine the freedom of being able to let go of the gift without hesitation and give God praise for the amount of time he shared it with us.

The way to be generous is to acknowledge that we are not the owners of anything in this world, we are stewards. And nothing we have been entrusted with actually belongs to us; it is his and each day we have been given multiple more opportunities to use his gifts the way he wants.

Father Michael Schmitz is director of youth and young adult ministry for the Diocese of Duluth and chaplain of the Newman Center at the University of Minnesota Duluth. Reach him at [email protected]

Father Richard Kunst: When the church seems to be 'always' talking about money

In the years that I have been a priest, the vast majority of my parishioners have known that my least favorite subject to talk about is money. But I have had some of the parishes that actually think it is my very favorite subject to preach about! This is because some parishes as a whole do better than others in their charity and support of the church.

Father Richard Kunst
Father Richard

I am speaking in general terms here; all parishes have very generous people, and all parishes have very stingy people, but some parishes as a whole do better than others when it comes to supporting the mission of the church in general and their parish specifically.

As pastors it can be a source of stress when people are not generous enough to the mission of the parish, because like any institution, the parish needs money to function, so if the parishioners are not generous in their giving, it truly hampers the parish’s work of evangelizing and spreading the Gospel, which can tie the hands of the pastor.

What is important to note is that I am not addressing people’s financial abilities. Rather it is an issue of sacrificial giving, because no matter how rich or how poor we are, we can all be sacrificial givers; we are all called to be sacrificial givers.

As a rule, people who are less generous tend to be more sensitive to the subject. One case in point happened to me many years ago. I was pastor of a small parish when I had given my very first “money” homily, and after Mass a woman approached me and said, “Father, is that all you ever do is talk about, money?”

Charitable thoughts were not running through my mind at that moment. People who are not generous do not like to hear about the subject. Now, I am not saying that this particular woman was not generous, but her initial response to my first ever homily on the subject seemed to be a bit telling.

There are people who think the church should not be talking about money and that money has little or nothing to do with religion, but nothing could be further from the truth. You may have heard this before, but the Bible addresses money more than it addresses love! In fact money is the subject most addressed in the Bible, so you can be certain that money and faith go together.

While at this point I could cite any of the myriad scripture passages to make the case, it is the familiar passage of the poor widow in the Gospel of Luke that speaks loudly as to Christ’s understanding of our responsibility with our money. After Jesus watches wealthy people deposit their large gifts into the temple treasury and a poor widow do the same with only two copper coins, he says, “I assure you, this poor widow has put in more than all the rest. They make contributions out of their surplus, but she from her want has given what she could not afford — every penny she has to live on” (Luke 21:3-4).

If we read closely what Jesus says here, it should be a bit shocking. The poor widow, he says, put in more than the wealthy people did. We would be right to ask, “How can this be? How does God measure our generosity and our giving?”

God couldn’t care less about the amount that we give; rather, what is important is the sacrifice. We humans look at numbers, and it is right that we do so because we need to, especially if you are a pastor of a parish! But that is not how God looks at our giving. Jesus says the poor widow gave more than the wealthy people gave because she sacrificed more in her giving.

So God does not look at numbers, he looks at sacrifice. It is one of the ways we build up treasure in heaven, by sacrificing them on earth. We would be foolish to think that we will not be held accountable for how we used the blessings God gave us in this life.

So when it comes to giving to the church, your parish, or some other worthy charitable cause, it does not matter to God how rich or poor we are. Giving is meritorious based on how much we are sacrificing in the giving. In this way, poor people could easily give more than wealthy people if they do it sacrificially.

It is important for each and every one of us to pause so as to consider our charitable giving. Does it hurt? It should, if we are honest with ourselves. It is very easy for we humans to rationalize and justify our own rate of giving, when that is not what God is asking.

Father Richard Kunst is pastor of St. James and St. Elizabeth parishes in Duluth. Reach him at [email protected]

Father Nick Nelson: Where's that in the Bible?

Very often people will chide Catholics about a particular belief, saying, “Where is that in the Bible?” Or even well-intentioned Catholics sometimes will ask me to show them where this or that teaching is in the Bible.

Father Nicholas Nelson
Father Nick Nelson
Handing on the Faith

And while we can find good evidence, if not clear proof, in the Bible for what we believe, the very question “where is that in the Bible?” implies and presumes some-thing that we as Catholics don’t believe.

Someone asking that question is under the impression that the Bible is the sole authority for the content of Christian faith. When someone asks that question, they are presuming the Protestant principle of sola scriptura (“Scripture alone”), which rejects the teaching authority of the Catholic Church and says Scripture is the ultimate authority. Sola scriptura is unbiblical, untrue, and therefore un-Catholic. It’s similar to the question, “Did you stop stealing from your employer?” By even beginning to answer that question, you are admitting that you had at least in the past been stealing from your employer.

So, before getting our Bibles out and going from verse to verse showing evidence for this or that teaching, and then having the other person show verses that they think disprove the teaching, and going back and forth, it’s important to call the erroneous presumption of sola scriptura into question. Because by going right to your Bible you are already ceding ground in the debate. You are implying that the Bible is the sole authority on matters of faith.

Before going to Scripture, it’s important to say something like, “Wait, you think that Scripture is the ultimate authority? Well, we Catholics don’t believe that. The Bible was never intended to be the ultimate authority on what God revealed to us and what we are to believe.”

Then the question that needs to be asked is, “Where are we to learn the content of the faith that Christ wanted us to know? Did Christ make provisions for the authentic handing on the faith he revealed?” By provisions we mean, “Did Christ do anything, set up anything, or provide for us in a way that guarantees the authentic transmission of his teachings?” Yes, he did.

And what was that? It wasn’t the Bible. Jesus did not hand each of the Apostles a Bible and say, “Why don’t you copy these, make some more of them, and just hand them out to people, and that will be good enough.” He never did that.

What were the provisions he made for handing on the faith? If we look at the Gospels, we see that: 1) He passed on an oral tradition by what he said and did. 2) He gave his very own divine authority to other men for the authentic handing on of that tradition. And 3) he promised his divine assistance until the end of time. The best text for this is Matthew 28:18-20. “And Jesus came and said to them, ‘All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, to the close of the age.’”

God never intended the Bible to be the last and only word concerning the content of faith. The first disciples never had the New Testament. The Gospels and letters that make up the New Testament weren’t complete until the end of the first century. He never expected us all to learn Greek so that we could each interpret it ourselves in order to come up with the content of the faith.

History has shown us the absurdity of the idea of sola scriptura. There are billions of Christians, and thousands of denominations of Christians who all believe that the Bible is the only necessary and sufficient authority, yet they all believe different and contradictory things on very important questions such as the sacraments and morality and eternity.

Rather than handing us a Bible and telling us to interpret it ourselves, we who have a darkened intellect, disordered passions, and weakened will, Jesus did something much more simple and greater for us. He gave us a visible church with his very own divine authority and assistance to infallibly interpret the sources of faith, i.e., Sacred Scripture and Sacred Tradition. This living voice continues to authentically protect and transmit the deposit of faith down through the centuries. So by trusting in the trustworthy authority of the church as a child trusts his mother, we have everything we need to know and do for salvation.

Maybe we should turn that first question around and ask, where’s sola scriptura in the Bible? If someone says everything needs to be explicitly found in the Bible, then where in the Bible does it say that the Bible is the only and ultimate authority on the content on faith? You can look all day long. You won’t find it, because it isn’t there. But you will find this. St. Paul writing to St. Timothy, “...The household of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and foundation of truth” (1 Timothy 3:15). The church is the pillar and foundation of truth, not the Bible!

Father Nick Nelson is pastor of St. Mary, Cook; St. Martin, Tower; and Holy Cross, Orr. He studied at The Pontifical John Paul II Institute for Studies on Marriage and Family in Rome. Reach him at [email protected]

Deacon Kyle Eller: A little catechesis on the Eighth Commandment to help us through election season

It’s election season (although isn’t it always nowadays?), and that means our social media are even more full than usual with lies, distortions, falsehoods, half truths, and fake news, intermixed with more worthwhile things.

When we talk about this, often it’s to help build up our own media literacy, learning how to tell the good from the bad.

Deacon Kyle Eller
Deacon Kyle Eller
Mere Catholicism

As worthwhile as that is, it seems to me there is a still more urgent task: being sure that we’re not sinning ourselves by spreading lies among our family and friends. Going to hell, after all, is a far worse outcome than any election.

In other words, we need to revisit the Eighth Commandment — “you shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.”

Living in the truth

St. Thomas Aquinas said, “Men could not live with one another if there were not mutual confidence that they were being truthful to one another” (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 2469). Unfortunately, as truth erodes in our society, I think we’re seeing that claim verified.

For a disciple of Jesus Christ, though, living in the truth and bearing witness to it appropriately are not optional, they are binding obligations. Jesus proclaims himself the way, the truth, and the life, and he promises that the truth will set us free. It is the devil whom he calls “a liar and the father of lies.”

What’s more, even at a purely human level, truthfulness is a matter of justice — of what we really owe to other people.

There can be no doubt the world is pushing hard against this virtue of truthfulness. Every election is billed as the “most important election ever,” and in contrast to Christian belief, many of our contemporaries believe good ends justify any means, so if fudging the truth is the way to beat back what they perceive as the forces of darkness, of course that’s just what they’ll do.

This is how your social media feed came to be so full of garbage.

Offenses against the truth

Our call is to be people of the truth, which among other things means avoiding every form of bearing false witness. This goes well beyond simply avoiding the most obvious lies.

For instance there are the sins that are contrary to respect for people’s reputations, like rash judgment, detraction, and calumny (CCC 2477). Thus even if we truly know another person’s failing, we still don’t get to spread it around without a serious reason — that’s detraction. Or if someone tells us something awful, even about someone we treat as an enemy, we must not even silently believe it’s true until we have a sufficient foundation for that. This is rash judgment.

And if even those things are sins, how much more is calumny, where one spreads some falsehood that damages someone’s reputation — a powerful temptation in a climate where one of the common paths for electoral victory is damaging an opponent’s reputation.

We might ask ourselves how often we have done that — passed on some commentary or article with an accusation against someone that we haven’t really researched ourselves or that we even later found out to be false, or played up some apparently damning quote we know deep down was taken out of context.

And if we have done so, we might consider whether we have confessed that sin and done our best to fix our error by trying to restore the reputation of the person we’ve damaged. Because there really is a duty of reparation in these matters (CCC 2487).

For instance, if I calumniate a politician I dislike on Facebook, guess where I should go to apologize and try to restore his reputation? Same place, in just as public a way. If that sounds like a distasteful task, consider that an excellent reason that you should never share anything that damages anyone’s reputation without being morally certain it’s true and that you have a serious reason to share it.

There are even times saying something “nice” is an offense against the truth. If some politician I favor is engaged in some wrongdoing, and by flattery or adulation I affirm that perverse conduct, I have also sinned against the truth (CCC 2480). We all unfortunately face choices at the ballot box where all the candidates may take positions in serious contradiction to sound morality. I think that presents for us one of our most daunting challenges in living in the truth — how to speak and act in such a way that we do not encourage the evil things the “lesser evil” we may have decided to support stands for.

To the extent we speak to others about politics, all of us take on the responsibility to do so in a truthful way. To the extent we do so more publicly, in places like social media, we even begin to take on some of the responsibilities we would normally associate with journalists. (And it’s no excuse for us that many journalists seem to have abdicated these responsibilities too lately.)

So we should worry about getting suckered by fake news and false information. But far more than that, we should worry about being spreaders of the contagion. Just don’t. Before you even believe something awful — let alone share it with others — verify it, putting the best construction you can on the other person’s words and actions (CCC 2478). If in doubt, don’t post.

If it’s gossip and garbage, as so much of it is, stop it in its tracks.

Deacon Kyle Eller is editor of The Northern Cross. Reach him at [email protected].

Men’s and women’s conferences coming up soon

The Northern Cross

This year’s annual men’s and women’s conferences are scheduled for Feb. 29 and March 28, respectively, at Marshall School in Duluth. Registration is open for both.

The Men of Faith Conference, held on leap day, boasts a powerhouse speaker in high demand — the “Dynamic Deacon,” Harold Burke-Sivers, who is known for powerful and passionate preaching and evangelizing.

“He is so popular that we had to book Deacon Harold three years in advance so we could schedule him as our speaker for our Men of Faith conference on the first Sunday of Lent,” said Deacon John Weiske, who organizes the conference.

Deacon Burke-Sivers is scheduled to give four talks on the day, which will cover such topics as awakening the desire for Christ in the hearts of men, spiritual combat, and living a vibrant faith in the workplace.

The speaker has a master’s degree in theological studies from the University of Dallas and co-hosts the Eternal Word Television’s Network’s popular radio program “Morning Glory” and the weekly broadcast “Living Stones” on Mater Dei Radio. He has appeared as a guest on other national and international radio programs, including “Catholic Answers Live” and “Vocation Boom Radio,” and is the host or co-host of several popular series on EWTN television and is featured on the award winning “Chosen” faith formation program by Ascension Press. He’s the author of the best-selling book, “Behold the Man: A Catholic Vision of Male Spirituality,” co-author of “Ignite: Read the Bible Like Never Before,” and has written the acclaimed new book, “Father Augustus Tolton: The Slave Who Became the First African- American Priest.”

Deacon Burke-Sivers is a Benedictine oblate and a member of the Fellowship of Catholic Scholars and the Confraternity of Catholic Clergy.

He lives in Portland with his wife Colleen, and they have four children.

Early-bird registration ends Feb. 17 (save $10). Registration closes Feb. 24.

Women’s conference

This year’s Women of Faith conference, March 28, features two speakers: the nationally acclaimed motivational speaker, TV contributor, radio host and life activist Deby Schlapprizzi and the area’s own Nic Davidson, an energetic convert to the Catholic faith whose life and marriage have been transformed by the Theology of the Body.

Organizers say Schlapprizzi will lead participants on a journey of transformation, gently urging them to shift perspective and draw closer to the Lord “in order to recognize and embrace your magnificence.”

Registration for both events is available at

‘Jesus Christ was the center of his life’

Bishop Paul Sirba laid to rest

By Deacon Kyle Eller
The Northern Cross

“My brother loved the Lord. Jesus Christ was the center of his life.”

Father Joseph Sirba, pastor of St. Patrick in Hinckley and St. Luke in Sandstone, said in his funeral homily Dec. 6 that everyone was stunned to learn that his brother, Bishop Paul Sirba, ninth bishop of the Diocese of Duluth, had died Dec. 1.

Photo by Dave Hrbacek / The Catholic Spirit

“In fact, many of you have told me that when you learned of his death, you said there must be some mistake,” he said. “It must be someone else who had died. Others have told me that they heard the words being said to them, but the words didn’t register.”

The bishop, who had been residing at the rectory at St. Rose parish in Proctor, was making his way from the rectory to the parish to celebrate the 8 a.m. Mass. He collapsed in the parking lot, having suffered cardiac arrest. Despite a major snow storm hampering travel, an ambulance arrived within about 10 minutes, and he was rushed to St. Mary’s Medical Center in Duluth, where he received the last rites from Father John Petrich, but life-saving efforts were unsuccessful. He passed away shortly after 9 a.m.

He was 59 years old and was less than two weeks from the tenth anniversary of his ordination as bishop.

Father James Bissonette, who served as judicial vicar under Bishop Sirba, announced the news that morning, saying, “Words do not adequately express our sorrow at this sudden loss of our Shepherd. We have great hope and faith in Bishop Sirba’s resurrection to new life, and have confident assurance that he will hear the words of our Lord: ‘Well done, good and faithful servant, enter in the joy of your Master.’”

In his homily, Father Sirba noted that while it was not widely known, Bishop Sirba did have a heart problem — a third degree heart block — and had a pacemaker for the past several years.


The outpouring of grief in response to the news was rapid, across the Diocese of Duluth, the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis where Bishop Sirba had served as a priest, and beyond.

The initial notice on the diocesan Facebook page was shared hundreds of times and drew more than 200 comments, often relating personal stories and noting the bishop’s kindness and holiness, expressing shock and sorrow and hope for his entry into heaven.

“Heaven is celebrating the arrival of Bishop Sirba’s kind, gentle and holy soul,” wrote one. “Our diocese was blessed by his ministry, and he will be missed.”

“He was such a kind and holy man and good shepherd for all of us,” wrote another. “He helped my husband and I through some very tough times in our life.”

Another said, “In every encounter, it was evident that he loved and served Jesus Christ first and foremost. He proclaimed the Gospel steadfastly and with love. Jesus Christ fl owed from this man. His witness, ministry, and personal warmth will be greatly missed.”

A message from the Vatican Secretary of State, Cardinal Pietro Parolin, was sent to Archbishop Bernard Hebda of the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis and conveyed to the Duluth Diocese. “The Holy Father was saddened to learn of the untimely death of Bishop Paul D. Sirba, and he sends heartfelt condolences to the clergy, religious, and lay faithful of the Diocese of Duluth,” it read. “In commending the late Bishop’s soul to the merciful love of God our Father, His Holiness joins in your prayer of thanksgiving for his years of devoted pastoral service to the Church in Duluth. To all who mourn the late Bishop in the sure hope of the resurrection, the Holy Father cordially imparts his Apostolic Blessing as a pledge of peace and consolation in our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Bishop Sirba’s predecessor as bishop of Duluth, Archbishop Dennis Schnurr, now serving the Archdiocese of Cincinnati, sent a letter of condolence to assure the faithful of the diocese of his “heartfelt sympathy and prayers following the sudden death of your beloved shepherd, Bishop Paul Sirba.”

“Like myself, all of you know Bishop Sirba as a faithful servant, a clear teacher of the faith, and a courageous leader during a difficult period in the history of the diocese,” he said. “On a personal level, I will always remember Bishop Sirba’s warmth and graciousness whenever we had the chance to interact.”

Other bishops around the country also reacted quickly. Archbishop Alexander Sample of Portland, on his Facebook page, called Bishop Sirba “one of my closest bishop friends” and said he had just spent time with him in November at the USCCB meeting. “He was a great consolation to me personally,” the archbishop said. “I had known Bishop Sirba for 34 years, and was present at his priestly and episcopal ordinations. He was a great inspiration to me as a young man discerning my own priestly vocation at the time. The Diocese of Duluth has lost a very holy and loving shepherd.”

ELCA Bishop Thomas Aitken shared the news with area Lutherans and wrote on Twitter: “Bishop Sirba’s sudden death is a great sorrow to me. We were more than colleagues, we were friends! Soft spoken, thoughtful and thoroughly kind person! I am appreciative of the work we were able to do together in our Ecumenical world. I thank God for his life and witness!”


Public visitation for the bishop began the afternoon of Dec. 5, as hundreds of mourners came through the Cathedral of Our Lady of the Rosary to pay their respects and to pray for the repose of his soul.

The vigil included the praying of the Office of the Dead, which began with the Handmaids of the Heart of Jesus processing to kneel before the casket with candles, singing a song based on the Twenty-Third Psalm that was written for the bishop.

The homilist for evening prayer was Bishop Sirba’s close friend Bishop Peter Christensen, now of the Diocese of Boise, Idaho, who previously served in Superior, Wis.

“Now they say it’s wrong to canonize a person at the time of their death,” Bishop Christensen said. “But my brothers and sisters, I just can’t possibly refrain from affirming what is so apparent in our brother Bishop Paul, and that is he is a saintly man, tried and true.”

He described Bishop Sirba as a man of the Beatitudes who “shows us the light of faith.”

He recalled spending time together a couple of weeks before Bishop Sirba’s death at an episcopal ordination in Helena, Montana. There, he had asked Bishop Sirba’s assistance getting up after kneeling on the floor. He said he has reflected on the moment as a cherished memory representing the “tremendous support Paul has been these last 40 years of my life.”

He said Bishop Sirba wanted to continue his friendship with all those he ministered to in this life for eternity in heaven.

Funeral Mass

The funeral Mass Dec. 6 was celebrated by Archbishop Hebda, with a standing room only crowd including clergy from the Diocese of Duluth and the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis, religious sisters, and many of the lay faithful spilling over into overflow seating in the social hall. Thousands more watched the livestream provided by WDIO-TV.

Present were Bishop Sirba’s mother Helen of St. Paul, his brothers Father Joseph and John, and a sister Catherine, along with many nieces, nephews, and great-nieces and nephews.

Mourners also included a dozen other bishops, as well as representatives from other dioceses: Bishop Christensen; Bishop John LeVoir, Diocese of New Ulm; Bishop Andrew Cozzens, Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis; Bishop John Folda, Diocese of Fargo; Bishop Joseph Hanfeldt, Diocese of Grand Island, NE; Bishop George Rassas, Diocese of Chicago; Bishop Donald Kettler, Diocese of St. Cloud; Bishop John Quinn, Diocese of Winona-Rochester; Archbishop Sample; Bishop Michael Hoeppner, Diocese of Crookston; Bishop Juan Miguel Betancourt, SEVM, Archdiocese of Hartford, Connecticut; Bishop James Powers, Diocese of Superior, Wisconsin, as well as Msgr. Michael Mulloy, administrator of Diocese of Rapid City; Msgr. Mike Stewart, Archdiocese of Kingston, St. Vincent and the Grenadines; and Monsignor Gene Lindeman, vicar general of Diocese of Bismark.

Father Sirba, in his homily, said his brother was a humble man who “certainly never aspired to be a bishop.” But “above all else” he had “a desire to share Christ’s love.”

“He was a Catholic through and through,” he continued. “He was raised in a home by loving parents who shared with him their love for God through their example, encouragement, prayers, guidance and sacrifice. There were no compromises either in belief or practice. There were no deviations from what Christ taught through his Church, and Bishop Paul embraced that faith.”

He said having his brother be his bishop was a unique relationship.

“I know that there are more than a few priests who have brothers who are bishops, but as far as we knew, we were the only two who served in the same diocese,” Father Sirba said. “Of course, I always reminded him that I was here first.”

He said it gave him some insight into the life of a bishop, which he described as being a shepherd and having the fullness of the priesthood.

“To be a bishop is a difficult thing,” he said. “Did you ever stop to think that the task of a bishop is to do his best to see to it that everyone in his diocese gets to heaven? And I mean everyone, Catholics and non-Catholics alike. To any bishop who takes his vocation seriously, that is a daunting task and one at which he can only succeed with the help of God. That is also why we all need to pray and sacrifice for our bishops every day.”

He said his brother was a good shepherd and this was apparent in the way he acted as a spiritual father to the priests and the way he cared for the faithful.

“When he met people, they could tell he cared about them,” Father Sirba said. “They were attracted to him because they could see in him the love of Christ. He was a channel for God’s grace. Those who were hurting were consoled because they knew he hurt with them and those who were rejoicing knew he was rejoicing with them. “When people met him, they felt accepted by him. To them he wasn’t just Bishop Paul, but my friend, Bishop Paul, and if they were not necessarily living rightly, they were inspired to make changes and to strive to live like him.”

He said his brother was also a good leader unafraid to teach what the church teaches without compromising with the world’s demands.

“As Father Mike Schmitz said, ’He was so much like Jesus: gentle with people and uncompromising with truth. A true shepherd and father.’”

Father Bissonette, who earlier in the week had been elected diocesan administrator to take care of the diocese until a new bishop is appointed, offered the diocese’s condolences to Bishop Sirba’s mother and three siblings in the congregation, saying, “Like you, he loved us, and we loved him.” His voice cracking, he noted that it was the diocese’s “singular honor” that Bishop Sirba would remain with us, buried in the Duluth Diocese.

Leaving a legacy

Bishop Sirba attended Nativity of Mary Grade School in Bloomington, Academy of the Holy Angels in Richfield, and the College of St. Thomas and St. Paul Seminary in St. Paul. He received his master’s degree from St. Paul Seminary as well as a master’s degree from the Notre Dame Apostolic Catechetical Institute in Arlington, Virginia. He was ordained a priest for the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis in 1986 and served three parishes in the archdiocese, in addition to St. John Vianney College Seminary and St. Paul Seminary. He briefly served as vicar general and moderator of the curia in the archdiocese before being appointed the ninth Bishop of Duluth.

During his decade as bishop of Duluth, he oversaw a major strategic planning process for maintaining viable parishes across the diocese, led a Eucharistic Procession through the city of Duluth in honor of the diocese’s 125th anniversary, and led the diocese as it reckoned with bankruptcy in the wake of the clergy abuse crisis.

Bishop Sirba is buried in Calvary Cemetery in Duluth.

Bishop Paul Sirba: We don’t have to remain in the cold and darkness of a world without love

Editor’s note: Bishop Paul Sirba wrote this column for the December issue of The Northern Cross shortly before his death on Dec. 1.

With the nights getting longer and the cold growing colder, it may seem counterintuitive to be thinking of new beginnings. But the expression “it is always darkest before the dawn” really comes into play — and maybe those who live in the Southern Hemisphere have a slight advantage this time of year. Our Church begins a new year with the first Sunday of Advent, Dec. 1.

Bishop Paul Sirba

Bishop Paul Sirba
Fiat Voluntas Tua

What this means for us is not a static, ho-hum, here we go again chapter of life, but a vibrant, life-giving, grace-filled adventure in salvation history. I take comfort in believing that those who have gone before us didn’t have an undue advantage over those of us living in our own appointed times.

Though we were not physically present to have heard Jesus preach the Sermon on the Mount the first time, His word is living and effective to us in the Sacred Scriptures today. Though we were not able to be at the Last Supper, we are able to be present at its re-presentation every Sunday and Holy Day and to receive the Risen Lord truly present under the appearance of bread and wine, just like the Twelve Apostles did.

So the Church in her wisdom designates this period in our liturgical calendar as a new year of grace. Advent is a time to prepare for the coming of Our Lord, remembering and making present His first coming and in anticipation of His glorious return.

I heard from one of our financial advisers a new twist on the traditional Advent calendar. Instead of opening the windows of the calendar to find a new gift waiting for you, each day opens with an empty place wherein you put a gift for the poor and needy and thus draw out the love of giving as Jesus did.

On Dec. 14, I’ll be celebrating 10 years as your bishop. Thanks be to God and you! The verse on my holy card from the day of ordination was a passage from the writings of St. John of the Cross on whose feast day I was ordained. The verse reads: “Where there is no love put love and you will draw out love.” I didn’t realize when I was selecting the verse 10 years ago how important a challenge and opportunity it would present to me.

We live in a world that, forgetful of God, is quickly losing the meaning of love. It is a tragic reality. Jesus teaches us that the more we give in love the more we receive ultimate meaning. Unless we lose ourselves in giving we will never truly find ourselves.

It is for us to re-propose to ourselves, one another, and our world that we don’t have to remain in the cold and darkness of a world without love. The light of the world is coming. He, Jesus Christ, opens up the pathways to eternal life and love.

I am grateful to God for being sent to you. I pray He help me fulfill my duties with a true shepherd’s heart. I wish you a blessed Advent and Merry Christmas! May we generously, randomly, intentionally place love where there is no love and so draw love in abundance — Jesus.

Bishop Paul Sirba was the ninth bishop of Duluth.


Father Richard Kunst: Heaven is a gift, but hell is earned

Not long ago, I gave my weekday Mass crowd two theological statements and asked them to raise their hands if they thought the statement was correct. Here was the first one: “We can earn heaven by living a virtuous life, being faithful to the sacraments, and truly loving our neighbor as ourself.” About half the people raised their hand and nodded in agreement.

Father Richard Kunst
Father Richard

I proceeded to tell them jokingly that in the Middle Ages the people who raised their hands would have been burnt at the stake for heresy! Pelagianism was a condemned heresy in the early centuries of the church that stated in part that we could earn heaven by our own goodness. If St. Teresa of Calcutta and St. John Paul the Great are in heaven, they certainly don’t deserve to be there, because we can’t deserve heaven. It is pure gift. It is pure grace. The key word to the “theological” statement was the third word, “earn.” It is impossible to earn heaven. It is impossible to deserve salvation.

Here is the second theological statement I presented to the same Mass crowd: “We can earn hell by living a vicious life, away from God and the sacraments, and despising our neighbor.” Those who raised their hands to that statement were right on target.

Hell and damnation are always earned, but heaven is impossible to earn. St. Paul sums this up in one single verse in his Letter to the Romans, when he says, “For the wages of sin is death (spiritual death), but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” (6:23).

Notice the terminology St. Paul uses when he says “wages.” Wages are what we earn; it is our pay for the work we do, so we deserve our wages. Paul says that the wages of sin is a spiritual death, a separation from God.

Notice again the terminology he uses for eternal life and heaven. He calls it a “gift of God.” No one deserves gifts. Gifts are freely given as signs of love and affection.

No one is going to show up in hell and say, “How in the hell did I get here?” People who end up in hell, presuming there are people there, chose to be there. They earned it by how they lived life on this side of the grave. One of my oft repeated lines is that we cannot expect to have a good relationship with God in the next life if we did not have one in this life. Our eternity is solely based on how we live this short span of time. We either earn the bad or we open ourselves to the grace of God. It is always our choice. God never forces himself on us.

Some people might think this is unfair of God that we cannot earn heaven but that we can earn hell. What gives? Here is an analogy that comes from my own childhood. When I was in sixth grade I fell head over heels in love with one of my classmates. She was beautiful, but it was just puppy love. I vividly remember praying fervently that she would be made to fall in love with me. Thankfully my prayers were weak, because it didn’t happen.

But suppose my prayers actually worked, and somehow she was indeed forced to love me. Because it would have been forced, it would have been hell for her (as good of a guy as I am).  If you force yourself onto someone, it is hell for the other person. In the physical world, we call it rape. God will never force himself onto us. He wants us to be open to his grace. He wants us to welcome him into our lives by our own free will.

After the rich young man left Jesus because he had too many possessions, Jesus gave us the now famous line, “It would be easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.” With that the disciples were “completely overwhelmed” and then asked Jesus, “Who then can be saved?” And Jesus responds with, “For man it is impossible; but for God all things are possible” (Matthew 19:26).

Heaven and salvation are indeed impossible without God. We cannot earn heaven in any way, shape, or form — it is pure gift. But if we refuse that gift, God will respect our free will. It is up to us.

Father Richard Kunst is pastor of St. James and St. Elizabeth in Duluth. Reach him at [email protected]

Editorial: Goodbye, Bishop Paul

"When people met him, they felt accepted by him,” Father Joseph Sirba said in the funeral homily for his brother, our beloved Bishop Paul Sirba, who died unexpectedly Dec. 1. “To them he wasn’t just Bishop Paul, but my friend, Bishop Paul ….”

Or take it from a retired priest of the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis: “I think the thing about Bishop Paul was, no matter who he was with, he was 100 percent himself and you felt like he was your best friend,” he told The Catholic Spirit. “He was so kind and loving and interested in your life.”

The outpouring of love, the grief mixed with Christian hope for Bishop Sirba’s eternal reward, certainly bear those impressions out. People loved Bishop Sirba, and they knew he loved them.

Bishop Sirba chose for his episcopal motto “fi at voluntas tua” — “thy will be done” — echoing his deep trust in divine providence. He would surely be quick to console us with the truth that in whatever happens in the coming days, while we await the appointment of a new bishop, God has a loving plan for us here in the Diocese of Duluth and will take good care of us.

But it is certainly good and right to remember with deep gratitude the gift God gave us in Bishop Sirba. Do you have a favorite memory you’d like to share? We can’t promise to publish all submissions, but in our next issue, we would like to publish a selection of contributions in honor of our beloved shepherd. Please email them by Jan. 17 to [email protected]

Calendar for December 2019

St. Michael’s Christmas tree and wreath sales

St. Michael’s Church, 4901 E. Superior St., Duluth, will again be selling Christmas trees beginning on Saturday, Nov. 30. High quality spruce, balsam fir, Norway pine and white pine trees, along with Christmas wreaths and sprays, will be available. Weekdays 10 a.m. to 7 p.m. (helpers to load your tree from 4:30 p.m. to 7 p.m.). Weekends 9 a.m. (11 a.m. Sunday) to 5 p.m. All net proceeds go to help with parish buildings and grounds maintenance needs.

Christmas cookie sale

Holy Family Parish, 2430 W. Third St., Duluth, will have a Christmas cookie sale Dec. 6 from 3 p.m. to 6 p.m. and Dec. 7 from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Cookies will be sold for $3.50 per dozen.

Carmelite community

A third order Carmelite community meets monthly at St. Joseph’s Church, 315 S.W. 21st St., Grand Rapids. Meetings are held the first Saturday of each month. Rosary at 8:30 a.m., followed by Mass at 9 a.m., and morning prayer. Meeting at 10 a.m. until 11:30 a.m. For information on the Carmelite community, please call Deacon Richard Johnston at (218) 966-8251 or Ann Johnston at (218) 966-3052.

Bake sale

St. Mary’s, 9999 Highway 133, Meadowlands, is holding its annual Christmas Bake Sale and More Dec. 7 from 10 a.m. to noon. Fresh baked goods, ornaments, drawings and other goodies will be available. There will also be a special drawing for a quilted Christmas wall hanging in which all proceeds go to the diocesan seminarians. For tickets or more information, please contact Mary Maly at (218) 427-2649.

Mass on TV

The Diocese of Duluth sponsors a televised Mass at 9:30 a.m. every Sunday from the Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception in Washington, D.C., on WDIO-Duluth and WIRT-Hibbing. Donations are welcome and can be sent to TV Mass, 2830 E. Fourth St., Duluth, MN 55812. Please make checks payable to TV Mass. For information contact the diocese at (218) 724-9111 or visit click on “Donate.”

Pancake breakfast

An all you can eat Pancake Breakfast will be held at St. Mary Star of the Sea Church, 325 E. Third St., Duluth, Sunday, Dec. 8, from 8 a.m. to 11 a.m. Adults $6 and children under 10 $4. Extra parking in the Essentia ramp behind the church Fourth Street entrance. For additional information call the parish office (218) 722-3078

Kateri Circle (Duluth)

St. Lawrence Church Kateri Circle meets the second Sunday of each month at St. Lawrence Church, 2410 Morris Thomas Road, Duluth, after the 11 a.m. Mass. Become involved in the “reach out” to make St. Kateri known throughout our area. There are still so many persons who have not heard of this saintly woman for our time. Contact Michele at (218) 591-0556 for more information.

Christmas jamboree

Sts. Mary and Joseph Parish, 1225 Mission Road, Sawyer, presents the Log Church Christmas Jamboree, directed by Missy Parker, on Dec. 8 at 3 p.m. featuring the children’s choir, junior and senior choirs, soloists and instrumentalists, and a sing-along. Treats and goodies to follow. A free will offering will go to the local food shelf.

Communion and Liberation

The Communion and Liberation School of Community meets Sunday evenings at 5:45 p.m. at St. Benedict Church, 1419 St. Benedict St., Duluth. Prayer, singing, and sharing experiences in light of our friendship in Christ, the group finishes in time to join the congregation in sung vespers at 7 p.m. The community is a companionship that educates. They are currently reading “Morality: Memory and Desire” by Father Giussani. For more information, please contact William Vouk at (320) 630-8119 or at [email protected]

Living in God’s Divine Will

A group meets Mondays from 1 p.m. to 2:30 p.m. at St. Benedict Church, 1419 St. Benedict St., Duluth. Come learn how living in God’s will is so much more than doing God’s will. For information, call Barb Larson at (218) 724-0368.

Lectio divina series

The Center for Spirituality and Enrichment is holding a lectio divina series Nov. 25, Dec. 2, 9, and 16 from 9 a.m. to 10 a.m. in Our Lady Queen of Peace Chapel at St. Scholastica Monastery, 1200 Kenwood Ave., Duluth. Series is facilitated by Benedictine Sister Luce Marie Dionne. Cost is $5 per session or $20 for all sessions. To register visit

Carmelite community

A third order Carmelite community meets monthly at St. Patrick’s Church, 203 Lawler Ave. S., Hinckley, from 5 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. the second Tuesday of the month. For more information on the Carmelite community, please contact Gail Von Reuden, TOC, at (320) 384-7305.

Charismatic prayer group

Proclaimers of Christ Catholic charismatic prayer group meets the second Thursday of the month at St. Agnes Church, Elm at Division Street, Walker. A potluck supper starts at 6:15 p.m. with praise and worship at 7 p.m. On the fourth Thursday of the month gatherings will be at Sacred Heart Church, 300 First St. N., Hackensack, starting at 7 p.m. For information contact David LaFontaine (651) 503- 0168 or Don Rudquist (218) 675-7701.

Prayer group

A prayer group meets every Thursday at 7 p.m. at St. James Church cafeteria at 721 N. 57th Ave. W., Duluth. Please park in the back parking lot. Coffee and goodies for a social after prayer. Handicapped accessible. Contact Sharon (218) 590-2265 for questions.

Christmas caroling

The Center for Spirituality and Enrichment is holding a Christmas caroling event Thursday, Dec. 12, from 7 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. at McCabe Renewal Center, 2125 Abbotsford Ave., Duluth. Register by calling McCabe at (218) 724-5266 or email [email protected]

Advent silent retreat

Christ the King Retreat Center, 621 First Ave. S., Buffalo, is holding an advent silent retreat Dec. 13-15. The theme is “Living a Trinitarian Lifestyle.” Retreat facilitated by Oblate Father Daniel Renaud. Cost is $175. To register visit

Coffee with the Saints

The Center for Spirituality and Enrichment is hosting Coffee with the Saints Friday, Dec. 13, from 9 a.m. to 10:30 a.m. at the St. Scholastica Monastery, 1001 Kenwood Ave., Duluth. Benedictine Sister Sarah O’Malley will facilitate the conversation about St. Augustus Tolton. Freewill offering accepted. Register at


St. Mary, 8118 Lake St., Willow River, is holding its annual bazaar and bake sale Saturday, Dec. 14, from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m.

Meat bingo

Knights of Columbus Chisholm Council 3539 is holding a meat bingo Saturday, Dec. 14, at 6:30 p.m. at St. Joseph’s Church, 113 S.W. Fourth St., Chisholm. Come and play bingo with the family. Pulled pork sandwiches will be available for purchase. Win a variety of meats. Door prizes will also be available. Raffle Tickets available for sale now by calling Jed Holewa (218) 966-0697. There will be 3 sets of 10 games played at $1 per card. Purchasing a book of raffle tickets gets you a card for the first 10 games. Proceeds support the Knights of Columbus Chisholm Council 3539.

Father Solanus Casey Fraternity

The Father Solanus Casey Fraternity of the Secular Franciscan Order meets the third Sunday of each month at 12:30 p.m. at Holy Family Church, 2430 W. Third St., Duluth (lower level). Secular Franciscans are lay Catholics and diocesan priests who commit themselves to living lives of simplicity, prayer, peacemaking, and service to the church and others, especially the poor. Secular Franciscans are part of the worldwide Franciscan family, including friars and religious sisters, who follow in the footsteps of St. Francis of Assisi. For more information contact Franz Hoefferle, fraternity minister, at (218) 728-4904 or [email protected]

Taize prayer

The Center for Spirituality and Enrichment is holding Taize prayer Monday, Dec. 16, at 7 p.m. at Our Lady Queen of Peace Chapel, St. Scholastica Monastery, 1001 Kenwood Ave., Duluth. Gather for an hour of prayer to encounter the mystery of God through the beauty of simplicity. Registration not necessary.

Zenith City Catholic

Zenith City Catholic is a Catholic Young Adults group in the Duluth area that meets the third Tuesday of each month for adoration at 6:30 pm at the Cathedral of Our Lady of the Rosary, 2801 E. Fourth St., Duluth. After, the group meets for a time of fellowship. For questions or to learn more about other upcoming events, email [email protected] or visit Zenith City Catholic on Facebook.

Grief support

A grief support group meets the first and third Thursday of the month from 4 p.m. to 5:30 p.m. at Immaculate Heart Church, 35208 County Road 37, Crosslake, in a lower level classroom. For more information call Jean at (218) 839-1958.

Public square rosary

Our Lady of Fatima, Garrison, and Holy Family, Bulldog Lake, holds a Public Square Rosary the fourth Tuesday of each month at 1 p.m. near the big walleye fish at the lookout on Mille Lacs Lake in Garrison (Highway 169). All are invited to join in prayer. The rosary is prayed for the intentions of our Blessed Mother, the conversion of sinners, and to reconcile ourselves, our families, and our nation back to God. For more information contact Jean Fetters at (218) 764-2665.


Do you have a family member or loved one who is experiencing same-sex attraction? Consider joining EnCourage, a support group for Catholics seeking to balance the love of their faith with the love for their family member. The group meets the third Monday of the month at 7 pm at St. John’s Church, 1 W. Chisholm St., Duluth. Please contact Deacon Walt Beier at [email protected] to confirm the meeting schedule. Are you experiencing same-sex attraction and looking for answers? Contact Deacon Beier at [email protected] for support group information. Also visit

FertilityCare introductory sessions

Northland Family Programs, a FertilityCare Center, holds free Creighton Model FertilityCare System introductory sessions. CrMS is based on the knowledge and understanding of the naturally-occurring phases of a woman’s fertility and infertility. A woman can know her cycles and use this information for the maintenance of her health. Further, couples can use this knowledge to plan their family and build their future together. To get started, call (218) 786-2378 or visit

Catholic Singles Group

Catholic Singles Group in the Twin Ports serves singles age 40 and up and hosts weekly and monthly events such as swing dance lessons. Contact Laverne at (218) 491-3241 or visit Call at least one day in advance of event to register.

Pancake breakfast

An all you can eat pancake breakfast will be held at St. Mary Star of the Sea Church, 325 E. Third St., Duluth, Sunday, Jan. 5, from 8 a.m. to 11 a.m. Adults $6 and children under 10 $4. Extra parking in the Essentia ramp behind the church Fourth Street entrance. For additional info call the parish office (218) 722-3078

Theology Uncapped

The next Theology Uncapped will be Thursday, Jan. 23, at 6:30 p.m. at Grace Lutheran Church, 5454 Miller Trunk Highway, Hermantown. Father Richard Kunst of St. Elizabeth and St. James, Duluth, and the Rev. Peter Kowitz, pastor of United Lutheran Church, Proctor, will be discussing the Bible. Doors open at 5:30 p.m. Cost is $20 which includes dinner from Famous Dave’s and choice of drink. Register online at For more information, call Deacon John Foucault at (218) 393-0631.

Mardi Gras

Celebrate Mardi Gras at Queen of Peace School, 102 Fourth St., Cloquet, Saturday, Feb. 22, 2020 from 6 p.m. to midnight. There will be music, dance, complimentary food, and beverages. Raffles include a trip to Palm Springs, an electric meat smoker with $400 B&B Market meat card, and many silent and live auctions as well. Tickets are $25 per person and can be purchased at the door until sold out or in advance by calling (218) 879-8516. Must be 21 or older to attend. For more information visit

Men’s conference

The 2020 Men of Faith Conference —- Men on Fire —- will be held Saturday, Feb. 29, 2020, at Marshall School in Duluth. The presenter is internationally renowned speaker, author, and preacher Deacon Harold Burke-Sivers, known as the “Dynamic Deacon” for his powerful and passionate preaching and evangelizing. For registration, see the diocesan website,

Women’s conference

The eighth annual Women of Faith Conference will be held Saturday, March 28, 2020 at Marshall School, 1215 Rice Lake Road, Duluth. Deby Schlapprizzi is the headline speaker, and Nic Davidson will lead an afternoon session. Registration will open later this year. More details to come.

A spiritual journey to Poland

Join Father Tony Wroblewski and Father Seth Gogolin for 12 days on a spiritual journey to Poland beginning Sept. 28, 2020. The journey will include visits to Gdansk on the Baltic Sea, Torun, St. Faustina’s childhood home and parish Church, Wroclaw, Czestochowa, Krakow, Divine Mercy, and more. To be placed on the priority mailing list to receive your free color brochure and registration form, (available this Fall) email your name, address, phone number (indicate if home, office or mobile phone number please), along with your email address, to Father Tony at [email protected], or simply call the office at (218) 822-4040.